Make Better Decisions With Your Time.
The older you get, the more you realize how fun it is to make all the decisions in your life. My twenties for instance just keep getting better and better because I still feel like a kid at heart, but I've got money, knowledge, and can make the decisions to have the life that I want. No one's telling me what to do! But with making those decisions comes the responsibility of bearing the repercussions of said decisions, too.
Even on a daily basis, I have a lot of choices that are presented to me. When do I wake up? Do I do my morning cardio before I head over to this audition, or do I put it off for later so I can sleep more? Should I make dinner before I head off for the day and wait till I get back? Decisions decisions. When people say be ready to bear the repercussions of your decisions, we assume they're talking about committing crimes, doing drugs, etc. Lol, it doesn't necessarily have to be to that level.
You see, every option we take, every move we make means we advance one aspect of our lives, and let another fall to the side. For instance, spending more time at work being the best employee means less time for your gym, your partner/family, etc. Is that a bad thing? No, just understand that that's what you decided to prioritize. And so we don't need to sit here and talk about whether swiping down on your Instagram feed for an hour is considered a good use of your time-- you make that decision. But just understand what you give up in order to spend that time on social media instead of doing something productive for yourself.
Ultimately ask yourself what is it that you want. Your time management, your focus, and where your head space is should all hone in on that. And that goes for your self-care as well. If what you're really looking for is intimacy and connection-- binge-watching on Netflix won't help you with that, nor will scrolling through your feed. Trust me, I've tried substituting Netflix for social connection; it doesn't work.
So ask yourself what you ultimately want, and make decisions to get to that goal and that goal alone. Every time you begin a new activity/endeavor the next time you sit-down or even decide to pick up your phone, ask yourself: "Is this going to help me get to what I want?" If yes, proceed. If no, SHIFT.
I think you know what to do from there.